As I’m not quite far enough to do a sneak peek for my upcoming FX movie, I’ve decided to tackle another blog that I’ve been desiring to write up for quite some time. It’s a little different than my normal blogs as it addresses the giantess fetish in a relationship context. Hopefully this basic advice will come in handy for those looking to find love!
1. You can’t judge a person by their fetish
If I have learned anything talking to thousands of shrunken men with the Giantess fetish over the course of almost five years now, it is that a person’s fetish is completely independent of personality. Sexuality does not determine who you are as a person. There are as many dominate guys with the fetish as there are submissive guys. From what I can tell, sexuality is determined completely separately from who you are as a person. The only reoccurring trend I have found is that those with the fetish tend to be a little shy about it – an obvious result of a society treating sexuality as a taboo and stranger forms of sexuality even worse. Who wouldn’t be shy when as a society western culture is so uptight and downright mean when it comes to sex?
(Side note: Please teach your kids that sex is wonderful and healthy and not a taboo or disgrace, and educate them properly about reproduction at a young age. Otherwise we will perpetuate our backwards society and culture where love, the single greatest feeling a human can experience is a fucking taboo subject to be looked down upon. Be the change you wish to see in the world. But I digress!)
Therefore, when you’re dating, you will find it equally as difficult to find someone who may match sexually just on their personality or vibe alone. You will never know what or how they like it in bed until you talk about it or get in bed with them. I’ve seen dominate guys beg to be dominated, and I’ve seen submissive guys want to go all out. The same goes for girls!
The one thing you can do, is look for open minded people. If someone is uptight about sex or sexual subjects, or thinks there’s only one right way to have sex… you’re probably not going to have much luck and I suggest running as fast as you can. Someone who thinks the world is well defined or constantly paints life in black and white may not be the most receiving of something that would change their world view dramatically.
Look for someone who is laid back, or enjoys learning and experiencing new things. If they are comfortable talking about say, a foot fetish, they’d probably be open to hearing what a Giantess is! And don’t take your fetish too seriously either. Laugh about it!
2. Timing is Everything
I prefer to tell all my dates that I have the Giantess fetish as soon as possible. I feel that this information is vital to having a healthy and happy relationship and understanding the other person on a deeper level. I would just as much want a boyfriend to be as open with his fetishes, no matter how strange! It’s also very helpful to quickly finding out who will be accepting of it and who will not be. You don’t want to waste your time with someone who won’t accept you! You want to spend all of your time with someone who will rock your tiny world.
But for those of us who are shy (such as myself believe it or not!), this can be the tricky part. When telling someone about your fetish, you don’t want to do it too soon or too late. You have to find that perfect in between.
If you tell someone about your fetish too soon, it might scare them away. For example, the first date is probably not going to work. Your girl / guy has a ton of information on their mind already and they are just starting to form perceptions of who you are. You want to let them get to know you as an individual first. They are going to need to know what kind of person you are before they can even begin to calculate how an odd fetish they’ve never heard of fits you! Otherwise, telling someone about the fetish right away forces them to judge who you are on your fetish alone- and this is not how fetishes work! Judging someone’s personality by their fetish is like judging someone’s personality by their favorite color. It doesn’t work!
On the other hand, you don’t want to wait too long. If you put off telling your significant other for days, weeks, months, or even years, you risk loosing their trust when you eventually do spill fact you want to be crushed under her soft soles. “Why didn’t you tell me sooner? Are there other things you’re hiding from me? Is this the tip of the iceberg?” Waiting so long to tell someone changes your fetish from a strange fact to a strange secret. And lovers do NOT like secrets! (However, if you have already kept it a secret for so long, I still recommend coming out with it. Life is no fun keeping wonderful things like fetishes all bottled up. Coming out is worth it!)
For me, I find the best time is during one of the first conversations about sex. (Usually within the first three days!) Mostly always before having sex for the first time, during that first sex conversation. I like to get the information out as soon as I can and as naturally as I can. Obviously, it might take longer or shorter for that first sex conversation to come about depending on who you are with. But out with the fetish when it comes! There’s no point in wasting your time with someone if they can’t accept you for who you are, or are closed minded about the stuff. It’s a risk always worth taking.
And just as much, I love it when a guy comes out to me in the first few days and confesses his fetishes. I find it incredibly sexy! It gets me even more interested and I only want to know more!
Of course, you can choose to never tell your lover about your fetish. But what’s the fun in that?! Hiding a central part of you (And whether you like it or not, your sexuality IS a central part of you, or you wouldn’t be reading this now!) is no way to live life, especially when you could be having so much fun with it! Having sex or teasing playfully with a lover who adores your Giantess fetish is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Don’t pass up that opportunity!
3. Ease into the subject
Ok, you and your partner are talking about sex for the first time. But now how does one go about bringing up the subject of Giantess? I typically don’t start off by saying “Given the chance, I’d crush your puny body and all of this worthless city under my bare feet.” Just as you might not say, “I would love it if you shrunk me down and swallowed me alive so that I could be digested inside your belly!”
Instead, I find the best way to pop the topic is to ease into it using other fetishes when the conversation starts getting deep. Once you’re both a good comfortable ways into the subject (and possibly even a little horny!) try steering the conversation into the realm of fetishes. You may find out she has a kink that is even kinkier than your kink!
Once you’re that far, the next step is easing into Giantess. The Giantess fetish is incredibly complex and complicated and to someone who barely knows what domination is, this subject is going to be overwhelming. You have to start small.
Wean into Giantess by saying you have a foot or mouth fetish- or even a female domination fetish. These are more common fetishes that they may have personally heard of or even experienced in past relationships. Once you’re sure your partner understands and is interested, start to add in the size aspect! Don’t be afraid to laugh about it. More than likely they will be completely captivated and will want to know even more.
Whatever you do, don’t expect them to understand right away. And don’t try to overload them with information in order to get them to understand. Don’t think you can explain the fetish in one go and then that’s it- you can now expect it in bed. This is the first talk of many on the subject as your loved one gets to know you.
In fact, I wouldn’t expect your loved one to understand your sexuality on an emotional level for a long while. It takes time, and the complexity of the fetish and emotions that drive this fetish are hard to explain and understand. He or she will not understand right away how a 2000 foot giant woman makes you feel inside or how to best sexually please those feelings. This is especially true if they have never had any experience with or personally have dominate or submissive sexualities.
Someday however, they will understand completely and your cock will be rocked. Take your time, and have fun!
4. Never give up, your Giantess is out there!
You are awesome. Your fetish is awesome. Don’t think for a second that there isn’t a girl out there who would love to call you her tiny man. Woman may not be as open about this stuff on the internet (thanks again to a society that encourages men to be sexually open and experimental but not women) but there are girls out there who are just like me, love to be in power. And I get the feeling that many girls do enjoy power, but society tells them they shouldn’t and so they hide it.
If someone does not accept you for who you are, or finds your fetish anything less than awesome, you may want to reconsider your choice. Your time on this world is precious and you should be making the most of it! Finding someone to share in your fetish is one of the greatest feelings possible. Don’t waste it!
You are worth loving and you should always be happy. Never give up!
5. Masturbation is Healthy
It’s healthy. It should never be restricted in a relationship. If your girl or guy feels you should never fap it, or outlaws fapping completely, you need to do some serious talking with them. Compromises can get you halfway, but the truth is that masturbating is healthy and your body is always going to want it. Fighting that basic, primal instinct for the rest of your life isn’t going to do anything but make you unhappy in the long run, and possibly even resent your lover.
Everyone has fantasies. Everyone masturbates. Masturbation is completely different than sex, it fulfills a totally different part of oneself. (It should never be looked at as cheating or competing by your lover. It’s not the same thing) However, if masturbation starts getting in the way of real life or begins to negatively affect your sex life, it may be a good idea to take a closer look and stash the lube out of reach!
And finally, you can’t do a Google search on masturbation without tripping over hundreds of articles and studies that show masturbation is both healthy for your body, mind, and relationship. Kellogg and Graham didn’t have a fucking clue.
I know this advice is rather basic (It is 101 after all!) but I get emails fairly often asking about things like this so I thought it’d be fun to write up! If you enjoyed this blog, let me know. If you do, I’d be happy to write up more future blogs like this one on the topic of sex and dealing with the Giantess fetish from a girl’s perspective.
Have a great week! Love ya little bugs!